Communication & Physical Needs

Communication is very important in our intimate relationships AND so is physical closeness - affection, intimacy and sexual interaction.  Often, communicating our physical needs bring some of the greatest challenge in our relationships.One partner might want more...

Women Mothering Men

"The part of you that mothers men is the part of you that wants someone to take care of you. So bring all that energy back to mothering yourself. And take the mothering equation out of your connection with men." - something I just wrote in a communication with a...

Men and Love – Part 2

Many men are starved of affection and love. Starved of even knowing what real love and affection feels like from a woman. He knows when she is “doing it for him” and he accepts the offering but in his heart, it doesn’t feel good. In his heart, he is disappointed…

Men and Love – Part 1

Sexual love in an intimate relationship is critical to maintaining a sense of aliveness and closeness.
Without sexual love, people become complacent, disconnected and begin to diminish their internal fire, or sense of personal aliveness.

When Lovers Become Just Friends – By Helen Zee

Many people start their relationship with a spark and a feeling of Va-Voom, that goes onto a deeper commitment and longevity of loving intimacy. A common question from many of the couples that I work with is “why is it hard to maintain the spark?”

Why Doesn’t He Know What I Need?

This is a question I have heard time and time again from women, and is something I have questioned myself. What we often don’t realize is the load of expectation in this complaint, and that sometimes… we’re setting our men up to fail.

Living and Loving from the Inside

Martina’s recent contribution to The Art of Spiritual Living, online retreat, is now available to view here! The video below includes a brief introduction from Elizabeth Foley, who created the online retreat, followed by some discussion on what spiritual...

This Man is a Rockstar

This man is a rockstar! Rod Gordon thank you for being part of my life. I first met him almost 2 years ago. He came to Tantric Nights, men's workshop, men's retreat and then signed up for training. The same week he signed up for training he asked me out on our first...

Why I love working with Men

It's funny when people question me about being a woman who works with men as it's really clear to me about why I work with men. I love working with men for a variety of reasons. It's not my role to teach a man how to be a man - there are plenty of men's programs that...

The Value of Real and Raw Emotions

Let's not photo-shop our feelings and plaster a smiley face emoji on everything. Recently I wrote about the heartbreak of having a miscarriage.  Not because the pain is current for me, but because I was closing off that chapter of my life. In writing about it, I took...

Transformational Energy

For those of us with high desire and high capacity for transformation, it is often accompanied by an inner agitation. It's a fire, an inexplicable force of life energy waiting to burst on through. A desire for more, a desire to touch god - in ourselves and others....

Miscarriage as a catalyst for transformation

I lost a baby. That's the common language used about miscarriage. But something in that implies a wrongdoing. I remember so clearly thinking and feeling "I did something wrong" and "it's my fault this is happening". I remember scanning for days and months afterwards....